What if YOU are the Toxic Person in your Relationships

    hi and happy Monday yes I usually come to you on a Tuesday but I won’t be in tomorrow so I thought I’d come the day early on a Monday but it’s not just any Monday it is Patriots rule Monday I’m from New England in case you can’t tell okay that aside we all knew that was gonna happen but now that has happened Patriots domination we can move on here so I’m dr. Laura Dabney relationship psychiatrist and although I usually help men successful men by the way with their very difficult relationships I’m coming to you in this context really to anybody who’s had trouble getting help for their emotional relationship problems maybe been on the fence maybe you’ve been afraid maybe you just don’t know who to turn to I’m hoping that this forum will help answer some of those questions or at least get you in the door to somebody okay so this month so that’s once we talk about parenting that’s a very loaded topic but this month I want to talk to you about what if you’re the toxic person in your relationships I actually have some folks that come to me with the chief complaint is what we call it saying that a lot of their relationships are unfulfilled unhappy stressful and they have enough insight to say I’m the common denominator dr. Dabney right and I think that’s a very it’s always a very moving point for me because to help yourself that insight is invaluable it’s also rare okay so if you’re able to see that something’s not right even if you don’t know what it is you’re halfway there are more than halfway there okay so let’s talk a little bit about what do I see what do I see in somebody where I go you maybe have trouble relating to people okay because some people I mean everybody has relationships that don’t go well and this is all sort of a gray or fine line area but if you if most of your relationships where majority of relationships are not fulfilling end up with a lot of acting out or abandonment if you seems more than the average person then it’s certainly worth checking out right all I may can say is well you’re handling it it’s not outside the range of norm but there are …

Hidden Toxic Relationship Patterns

It is a runny-nose day! hello Dr. Laura Dabney and relationship coach Joelle Brant coming to you live talking about, well we help executive men with their relationship problems or power couples with their relationship problems but we’re on a mission to help everybody get some help with emotional or relationship problems trying to help you overcome any shame or guilt or anxiety you have about that it’s sort of like our welcome mat to  welcome you in to show you how we look and we talk to you about the same things we talk to each other about.  yeah in here and to our patients  we always ask for people to send in questions mm-hmm we’ve been hearing from lots of you so thank you I was just telling Joelle I got a message from Sam in Chesapeake wanting us to talk about toxic relationship patterns.  Hidden! Yes HIDDEN toxic relationship patterns. I mean I hope none of you are going duh and there was an obvious toxic relationship patterns. I don’t want to assume anything is obvious but there are some that we when you say or  we talk about, that people don’t see or it’s hard for them to see when you point it out, so yes so those the ones who want to talk about. Someone is calling right now! Is it Lola with more food?  we hit the mother load today Lola is Joelle’s mother she brought us all these tasty treats Thank You Lola, too many but thank you it’s true okay yep so we’re happy about that. um that’s toxic food treats so the toxic relationship patterns and I thought was a good segue because we talked last week about dealing with toxic people in your life mhm and really it’s sort of the flip side of that because with toxic people in your life you have to get a little distance with putting up a boundary or leaving if they’re really toxic but this is where you can make a change in the pattern yourself. so things will improve you don’t have to change or put distance for the other person you can make a change which will bring you closer to that person because the toxic pattern is in the way. so let’s talk about them well you know what that’s I can actually there’s probably at least three categories here …