We are LIVE from Virginia Beach

We are LIVE from Dr. Laura Dabney’s Virginia Beach Office!! we are Live!!  hey everyone Dr. Dabney and Joelle Brant here we are just starting to get used to using Facebook live so if we start starting your first ever Facebook live woohoo there is something we are actually excited about right now we actually do pretty good news but I get a talk to a reporter at Huffington Post yesterday about how patients can have people couples can talk about financial problems without arguing so that’s good and that’ll be out we’re gonna get the link for that soon so we’ll share that as soon as we have it awesome I’m excited actually Joelle has other news she’s not sharing she’s showing off her new hairstyle I did yes I did I got my where’s the fair coz mine’s a mess I did I actually went to escape blow-dry bar and salon on Laskin Road on Virginia Beach and Yolanda right did my hair you know I’ll definitely link her in on this but yeah I see the before and after I’ll send you guys and share the before now sure I did I did play will talk to you on Tuesday were you know Tuesday and Thursdays live and thanks for joining us        

Why it’s Imperative to be Selfish for the Perfect Relationship

Dr. Dabney explains why it’s imperative to be Selfish for the perfect relationship. I know it sounds crazy to say you need to be more selfish in order to help your relationship.  but that’s exactly what has to happen. Being selfish is a big part in creating a perfect relationship. I’m Dr. Laura Dabney and I’ve been a relationship psychiatrist for over 20 years.  I’ve helped thousands of really successful men create the relationship of their dreams and it always starts the same way. These men come to me having put all their energy into helping everybody else in their life but they don’t know help themselves at all.   If you can’t understand how you feel, what you wants,  what your dreams are then you’re never gonna make that a reality. It’s not only okay to be selfish to take the time to understand you.  It’s a necessary first step to get the relationship that you’ve always wanted.  Again  it’s Imperative to be Selfish for the Perfect Relationship!

What if YOU are the Toxic Person in your Relationships

    hi and happy Monday yes I usually come to you on a Tuesday but I won’t be in tomorrow so I thought I’d come the day early on a Monday but it’s not just any Monday it is Patriots rule Monday I’m from New England in case you can’t tell okay that aside we all knew that was gonna happen but now that has happened Patriots domination we can move on here so I’m dr. Laura Dabney relationship psychiatrist and although I usually help men successful men by the way with their very difficult relationships I’m coming to you in this context really to anybody who’s had trouble getting help for their emotional relationship problems maybe been on the fence maybe you’ve been afraid maybe you just don’t know who to turn to I’m hoping that this forum will help answer some of those questions or at least get you in the door to somebody okay so this month so that’s once we talk about parenting that’s a very loaded topic but this month I want to talk to you about what if you’re the toxic person in your relationships I actually have some folks that come to me with the chief complaint is what we call it saying that a lot of their relationships are unfulfilled unhappy stressful and they have enough insight to say I’m the common denominator dr. Dabney right and I think that’s a very it’s always a very moving point for me because to help yourself that insight is invaluable it’s also rare okay so if you’re able to see that something’s not right even if you don’t know what it is you’re halfway there are more than halfway there okay so let’s talk a little bit about what do I see what do I see in somebody where I go you maybe have trouble relating to people okay because some people I mean everybody has relationships that don’t go well and this is all sort of a gray or fine line area but if you if most of your relationships where majority of relationships are not fulfilling end up with a lot of acting out or abandonment if you seems more than the average person then it’s certainly worth checking out right all I may can say is well you’re handling it it’s not outside the range of norm but there are …

More Quick Tips to Avoid the Holiday Meltdown this Year

  More Quick Tips to Avoid the Holiday Meltdown this Year Dr. Laura Dabney  here again with Tyler.   Here are More Quick Tips to Avoid the Holiday Meltdown this Year. yes you have it every year you know it and we want to help you avoid the holiday meltdown in general we’ve been talking about how to straighten out that imbalance which leads to that below upper meltdown and we want to emphasize for the summer summation is the intimacy involves giving and taking right think about it you’re giving something somebody else and taking something return is the ultimate intimacy if you’ve got it in your head that you have to give give give give that’s we make people happy and they’re automatically and give back to you you’re gonna be disappointed yes that’s gonna come right so go ahead take and give and your finding of a much more intimate holiday season this year for sure happy holidays everybody loved like that so long and we’ll catch you next time. Hope these Tips to Avoid the Holiday Meltdown from Dr. Laura Dabney help!

Beyond Boundaries– Simple Fixes for your Relationship Problems

we’re back it’s voting Tuesday we are here to talk  Beyond Boundaries and give  Simple Fixes for Your Relationship Problems absolutely yes so we’re not here to help you with the political problems because that can get kind of fiery but we do have some tips on how to fix your relationship problems.  these are the quicker tips we give beyond just boundary setting which is huge! But we have talked about boundary setting quite a bit but it’s here is our introduction.  I’m Doctor Dabney relationship psychiatrist and this is Joelle Brant relationship coach. We’re here to try to help you be a little less, you know, weird about coming in to see us or anybody to help you with your emotional relationship problems.  This is  sort of like us opening our front door and saying come on in this is let me talk about this what we do this our imperfections and hopefully make you a bit more comfortable. so we have talked about boundary setting and we’ve discussed the basic boundary setting method is “I feel X when you do Y so I need you to please stop.” there’s some other quick down and dirty statements you can make to stop some troublesome patterns in your relationship. so we thought we’d go over those today. the one we talk about a lot is walking away but a little part to that you have to add that’s because walking away is a little passive-aggressive if you’re in the middle of something or your partner is in the middle of something and you walk away you’re gonna stir them up because they’re not gonna know where you are  or why you just left. Or if  you coming back, that’s sort of hurtful to them so we talked about using a bridge statement. right,  you can say I’m gonna leave this is getting a little too much but let’s revisit it after dinner. Exactly so that little statement keeps it from being torture for the other person okay now there are times when walking away without a statement is appropriate so the first example walking away with a bridge statement is if someone’s being inappropriately aggressive name-calling you know yeah the other yelling gets to be too high whenever you get to that you know that anxiety discomfort like mmm it’s not working for me check in later okay but …