Why it’s Imperative to be Selfish to Have Better Relationships

  Dr. Dabney discusses Why it’s imperative to be selfish to have better relationships. I know it sounds crazy to say you need to be more selfish in order to help your relationship but it’s absolutely true I’m Dr. Laura Dabney and I’ve been a relationship psychiatrist for over 20 years I’ve helped thousands of of successful men create the relationship of their dreams and it all starts the same way these men come to me having helped everybody in their lives their communities their co-workers their families and their partners but they don’t know the first thing about themselves if you don’t know your hopes your dreams your thoughts you’re never going to be able to express them well and then create them it’s not only not mean to be selfish it’s essential to take the time to learn about yourself and all these particular areas so you can then reach out and create these fabulous relationships if this sounds like you please comment or message to learn more about how we can help you thanks my name is Dr. Laura Dabney, and I want to help. Remember, it’s imperative to be selfish to have better relationships

What if YOU are the Toxic Person in your Relationships

    hi and happy Monday yes I usually come to you on a Tuesday but I won’t be in tomorrow so I thought I’d come the day early on a Monday but it’s not just any Monday it is Patriots rule Monday I’m from New England in case you can’t tell okay that aside we all knew that was gonna happen but now that has happened Patriots domination we can move on here so I’m dr. Laura Dabney relationship psychiatrist and although I usually help men successful men by the way with their very difficult relationships I’m coming to you in this context really to anybody who’s had trouble getting help for their emotional relationship problems maybe been on the fence maybe you’ve been afraid maybe you just don’t know who to turn to I’m hoping that this forum will help answer some of those questions or at least get you in the door to somebody okay so this month so that’s once we talk about parenting that’s a very loaded topic but this month I want to talk to you about what if you’re the toxic person in your relationships I actually have some folks that come to me with the chief complaint is what we call it saying that a lot of their relationships are unfulfilled unhappy stressful and they have enough insight to say I’m the common denominator dr. Dabney right and I think that’s a very it’s always a very moving point for me because to help yourself that insight is invaluable it’s also rare okay so if you’re able to see that something’s not right even if you don’t know what it is you’re halfway there are more than halfway there okay so let’s talk a little bit about what do I see what do I see in somebody where I go you maybe have trouble relating to people okay because some people I mean everybody has relationships that don’t go well and this is all sort of a gray or fine line area but if you if most of your relationships where majority of relationships are not fulfilling end up with a lot of acting out or abandonment if you seems more than the average person then it’s certainly worth checking out right all I may can say is well you’re handling it it’s not outside the range of norm but there are …

Hidden Toxic Relationship Patterns

It is a runny-nose day! hello Dr. Laura Dabney and relationship coach Joelle Brant coming to you live talking about, well we help executive men with their relationship problems or power couples with their relationship problems but we’re on a mission to help everybody get some help with emotional or relationship problems trying to help you overcome any shame or guilt or anxiety you have about that it’s sort of like our welcome mat to  welcome you in to show you how we look and we talk to you about the same things we talk to each other about.  yeah in here and to our patients  we always ask for people to send in questions mm-hmm we’ve been hearing from lots of you so thank you I was just telling Joelle I got a message from Sam in Chesapeake wanting us to talk about toxic relationship patterns.  Hidden! Yes HIDDEN toxic relationship patterns. I mean I hope none of you are going duh and there was an obvious toxic relationship patterns. I don’t want to assume anything is obvious but there are some that we when you say or  we talk about, that people don’t see or it’s hard for them to see when you point it out, so yes so those the ones who want to talk about. Someone is calling right now! Is it Lola with more food?  we hit the mother load today Lola is Joelle’s mother she brought us all these tasty treats Thank You Lola, too many but thank you it’s true okay yep so we’re happy about that. um that’s toxic food treats so the toxic relationship patterns and I thought was a good segue because we talked last week about dealing with toxic people in your life mhm and really it’s sort of the flip side of that because with toxic people in your life you have to get a little distance with putting up a boundary or leaving if they’re really toxic but this is where you can make a change in the pattern yourself. so things will improve you don’t have to change or put distance for the other person you can make a change which will bring you closer to that person because the toxic pattern is in the way. so let’s talk about them well you know what that’s I can actually there’s probably at least three categories here …

Relationship Breaking Points

Relationship Breaking Points.  What are Relationship Breaking Points? This is what we discuss today. Hello! finally we got a break we’ve been really busy it has been busy catching up and we’re glad you’re joining us for our break and I’m Dr. Laura Dabney psychotherapist, this is  Joelle Brant relationship life coach. we are here to talk about what we do which is help executive men with their relationship problems and help everybody be less afraid of us yeah that’s afraid of going in to get help help with their emotional relationship problems and even support its support that’s right that’s right because there’s nothing no shame in getting help and a lot of people think there is but really what do we do in our lives we don’t need help yeah I mean you can’t even buy a TV without somebody helping you create it get to the store get in your car maybe I mean yeah it’s crazy so it’s really funny how people think what’s the term we hear all the time um I’m a rock I don’t need any any help I help others I’m the one that helps people yes as if they’ve cornered the market on hmm you know helping everybody that they don’t need help if we’d like to help people too so everybody needs to be able to receive help and give help I think that’s a one of the sayings I use for good mental how do you know if you have good mental health what the elders accept helped and receive help would be able to move from work to play so be able to go back and forth between these whenever you get stuck on just one one extreme and think that’s the way you’re in trouble something’s wrong so that sort of brings us to the question we got recently next we’ve gotten several so I’m gonna sum them up because they’re kind of all the same but it’s how do you know when your relationship is in trouble and you should get professional help and we love that question because of course there’s no easy answer to that but you know people healthy couples do have arguments or discussions heated discussions from time to time it doesn’t necessarily mean we mean you need emotional help or relationship or professional help but why not yeah why not make it …