Hidden Toxic Relationship Patterns

It is a runny-nose day! hello Dr. Laura Dabney and relationship coach Joelle Brant coming to you live talking about, well we help executive men with their relationship problems or power couples with their relationship problems but we’re on a mission to help everybody get some help with emotional or relationship problems trying to help you overcome any shame or guilt or anxiety you have about that it’s sort of like our welcome mat to  welcome you in to show you how we look and we talk to you about the same things we talk to each other about.  yeah in here and to our patients  we always ask for people to send in questions mm-hmm we’ve been hearing from lots of you so thank you I was just telling Joelle I got a message from Sam in Chesapeake wanting us to talk about toxic relationship patterns.  Hidden! Yes HIDDEN toxic relationship patterns. I mean I hope none of you are going duh and there was an obvious toxic relationship patterns. I don’t want to assume anything is obvious but there are some that we when you say or  we talk about, that people don’t see or it’s hard for them to see when you point it out, so yes so those the ones who want to talk about. Someone is calling right now! Is it Lola with more food?  we hit the mother load today Lola is Joelle’s mother she brought us all these tasty treats Thank You Lola, too many but thank you it’s true okay yep so we’re happy about that. um that’s toxic food treats so the toxic relationship patterns and I thought was a good segue because we talked last week about dealing with toxic people in your life mhm and really it’s sort of the flip side of that because with toxic people in your life you have to get a little distance with putting up a boundary or leaving if they’re really toxic but this is where you can make a change in the pattern yourself. so things will improve you don’t have to change or put distance for the other person you can make a change which will bring you closer to that person because the toxic pattern is in the way. so let’s talk about them well you know what that’s I can actually there’s probably at least three categories here …

Relationship Breaking Points

Relationship Breaking Points.  What are Relationship Breaking Points? This is what we discuss today. Hello! finally we got a break we’ve been really busy it has been busy catching up and we’re glad you’re joining us for our break and I’m Dr. Laura Dabney psychotherapist, this is  Joelle Brant relationship life coach. we are here to talk about what we do which is help executive men with their relationship problems and help everybody be less afraid of us yeah that’s afraid of going in to get help help with their emotional relationship problems and even support its support that’s right that’s right because there’s nothing no shame in getting help and a lot of people think there is but really what do we do in our lives we don’t need help yeah I mean you can’t even buy a TV without somebody helping you create it get to the store get in your car maybe I mean yeah it’s crazy so it’s really funny how people think what’s the term we hear all the time um I’m a rock I don’t need any any help I help others I’m the one that helps people yes as if they’ve cornered the market on hmm you know helping everybody that they don’t need help if we’d like to help people too so everybody needs to be able to receive help and give help I think that’s a one of the sayings I use for good mental how do you know if you have good mental health what the elders accept helped and receive help would be able to move from work to play so be able to go back and forth between these whenever you get stuck on just one one extreme and think that’s the way you’re in trouble something’s wrong so that sort of brings us to the question we got recently next we’ve gotten several so I’m gonna sum them up because they’re kind of all the same but it’s how do you know when your relationship is in trouble and you should get professional help and we love that question because of course there’s no easy answer to that but you know people healthy couples do have arguments or discussions heated discussions from time to time it doesn’t necessarily mean we mean you need emotional help or relationship or professional help but why not yeah why not make it …