We are LIVE again!

We are LIVE again talking about how to make a marriage last! I’m Joelle and Dr. Dabney here again going live look-ins expert I think over the weekend Dr. Dabney celebrated a milestone – tell me about what that milestone does in case she caught my two second story on Instagram it was about my is my husband’s in my 27th wedding anniversary which truly seems impossible yes I mean so I’ve been married nine years and I guess my biggest question and I think I asked Dr. Dabney this all the time but one thing that people asked you is you know how do you make it 27 years how do you make it one year it’s what’s that biggest piece of advice you would give any married couple you know yeah at last well since I treat marriages I guess not no but not always a couple but sometimes I just treat one person in the marriage which fixes the marriage by the way that’s one hint if you need help you gotta go but that’s my advice in general it there is no magic bullet to get you through all the problems you’re gonna face so you need help go get it we got help Darryl and I we had parenting disagreements and it wasn’t easy I’m still harder for him than me because I’m in the field but you know it’s never easy to ask for help but the relief and the amount of trouble you overcome is so worth it it’s just it’s just silly it’s almost silly not to get help because we made so much progress so fast and I don’t think we would have made it or at least wouldn’t be as happy where we are now if we didn’t get that help do you have any advice for those people that you know are not married yet that are engaged or you know kind of making that step there’s no any premarital advice so to speak it’s sort of a same thing if you if you start by having the understanding that were going to get help when we need it then just becomes more automatic it’s not so oh my god we need help something’s wrong with us it just becomes more second nature I know the Catholic faith has you do that mmm right so and I think that’s …

We are LIVE from Virginia Beach

We are LIVE from Dr. Laura Dabney’s Virginia Beach Office!! we are Live!!  hey everyone Dr. Dabney and Joelle Brant here we are just starting to get used to using Facebook live so if we start starting your first ever Facebook live woohoo there is something we are actually excited about right now we actually do pretty good news but I get a talk to a reporter at Huffington Post yesterday about how patients can have people couples can talk about financial problems without arguing so that’s good and that’ll be out we’re gonna get the link for that soon so we’ll share that as soon as we have it awesome I’m excited actually Joelle has other news she’s not sharing she’s showing off her new hairstyle I did yes I did I got my where’s the fair coz mine’s a mess I did I actually went to escape blow-dry bar and salon on Laskin Road on Virginia Beach and Yolanda right did my hair you know I’ll definitely link her in on this but yeah I see the before and after I’ll send you guys and share the before now sure I did I did play will talk to you on Tuesday were you know Tuesday and Thursdays live and thanks for joining us        

Why it’s Imperative to be Selfish to Have Better Relationships

  Dr. Dabney discusses Why it’s imperative to be selfish to have better relationships. I know it sounds crazy to say you need to be more selfish in order to help your relationship but it’s absolutely true I’m Dr. Laura Dabney and I’ve been a relationship psychiatrist for over 20 years I’ve helped thousands of of successful men create the relationship of their dreams and it all starts the same way these men come to me having helped everybody in their lives their communities their co-workers their families and their partners but they don’t know the first thing about themselves if you don’t know your hopes your dreams your thoughts you’re never going to be able to express them well and then create them it’s not only not mean to be selfish it’s essential to take the time to learn about yourself and all these particular areas so you can then reach out and create these fabulous relationships if this sounds like you please comment or message to learn more about how we can help you thanks my name is Dr. Laura Dabney, and I want to help. Remember, it’s imperative to be selfish to have better relationships

Why it’s Imperative to be Selfish for the Perfect Relationship

Dr. Dabney explains why it’s imperative to be Selfish for the perfect relationship. I know it sounds crazy to say you need to be more selfish in order to help your relationship.  but that’s exactly what has to happen. Being selfish is a big part in creating a perfect relationship. I’m Dr. Laura Dabney and I’ve been a relationship psychiatrist for over 20 years.  I’ve helped thousands of really successful men create the relationship of their dreams and it always starts the same way. These men come to me having put all their energy into helping everybody else in their life but they don’t know help themselves at all.   If you can’t understand how you feel, what you wants,  what your dreams are then you’re never gonna make that a reality. It’s not only okay to be selfish to take the time to understand you.  It’s a necessary first step to get the relationship that you’ve always wanted.  Again  it’s Imperative to be Selfish for the Perfect Relationship!

What if YOU are the Toxic Person in your Relationships

    hi and happy Monday yes I usually come to you on a Tuesday but I won’t be in tomorrow so I thought I’d come the day early on a Monday but it’s not just any Monday it is Patriots rule Monday I’m from New England in case you can’t tell okay that aside we all knew that was gonna happen but now that has happened Patriots domination we can move on here so I’m dr. Laura Dabney relationship psychiatrist and although I usually help men successful men by the way with their very difficult relationships I’m coming to you in this context really to anybody who’s had trouble getting help for their emotional relationship problems maybe been on the fence maybe you’ve been afraid maybe you just don’t know who to turn to I’m hoping that this forum will help answer some of those questions or at least get you in the door to somebody okay so this month so that’s once we talk about parenting that’s a very loaded topic but this month I want to talk to you about what if you’re the toxic person in your relationships I actually have some folks that come to me with the chief complaint is what we call it saying that a lot of their relationships are unfulfilled unhappy stressful and they have enough insight to say I’m the common denominator dr. Dabney right and I think that’s a very it’s always a very moving point for me because to help yourself that insight is invaluable it’s also rare okay so if you’re able to see that something’s not right even if you don’t know what it is you’re halfway there are more than halfway there okay so let’s talk a little bit about what do I see what do I see in somebody where I go you maybe have trouble relating to people okay because some people I mean everybody has relationships that don’t go well and this is all sort of a gray or fine line area but if you if most of your relationships where majority of relationships are not fulfilling end up with a lot of acting out or abandonment if you seems more than the average person then it’s certainly worth checking out right all I may can say is well you’re handling it it’s not outside the range of norm but there are …