Sociopaths and Narcissists

hi dr. Laura Dabney relationship coach Joelle Brandt’s we help executive men find the relationships of their dreams but we also are here to help everybody feel more comfortable about getting help for their emotional and relationship problems yes that’s a mouthful it is and we’re here with our dynamic black outfits on yeah we are today as you’re feeling very know I think if black is being strong strong Copic today we do have a strong topic today so we decided we would talk about how to deal with the sociopaths and the narcissists in your life in other words how to deal with the difficult people in your life I think it came out of Lee I think the one reason why we thought it was important to talk about is actually dr. Dabney has been talking to a lot reporters and featured in a few different articles about sociopaths and narcissists just because it’s something that she deals with a little more than me but it’s definitely something where I’m learning a lot from her but it’s really important because you just sometimes you don’t see it as a person who was never really thought about it or thought the tools to kind of see these flags you know listening to her talk to the reporters reading the articles it was like you know you need to tell everyone yeah it’s a big topic so we were kind of surprised but we must have had three or four reporters wanted to speak to me about narcissist or sociopaths now one of the one of the reporters said there’s a youtube war going on with somebody somebody’s saying somebody else is a narcissist no he’s a sociopath and we were trying to figure that out so that was kind of fun and I don’t know what those YouTube things are so if that’s so then stay tuned and you can learn something here but so the difference mainly is but that’s what people always want to know the difference sociopaths are equated to monsters and narcissists are equated to full of themselves or stuck-up yes and I guess that’s that’s kind of true yeah sociopath says we term the proper term for that is antisocial personality disorder that does not mean you don’t like to go to parties mm-hm antisocial personality disorder means essentially that you’re a criminal …

Hidden Toxic Relationship Patterns

It is a runny-nose day! hello Dr. Laura Dabney and relationship coach Joelle Brant coming to you live talking about, well we help executive men with their relationship problems or power couples with their relationship problems but we’re on a mission to help everybody get some help with emotional or relationship problems trying to help you overcome any shame or guilt or anxiety you have about that it’s sort of like our welcome mat to  welcome you in to show you how we look and we talk to you about the same things we talk to each other about.  yeah in here and to our patients  we always ask for people to send in questions mm-hmm we’ve been hearing from lots of you so thank you I was just telling Joelle I got a message from Sam in Chesapeake wanting us to talk about toxic relationship patterns.  Hidden! Yes HIDDEN toxic relationship patterns. I mean I hope none of you are going duh and there was an obvious toxic relationship patterns. I don’t want to assume anything is obvious but there are some that we when you say or  we talk about, that people don’t see or it’s hard for them to see when you point it out, so yes so those the ones who want to talk about. Someone is calling right now! Is it Lola with more food?  we hit the mother load today Lola is Joelle’s mother she brought us all these tasty treats Thank You Lola, too many but thank you it’s true okay yep so we’re happy about that. um that’s toxic food treats so the toxic relationship patterns and I thought was a good segue because we talked last week about dealing with toxic people in your life mhm and really it’s sort of the flip side of that because with toxic people in your life you have to get a little distance with putting up a boundary or leaving if they’re really toxic but this is where you can make a change in the pattern yourself. so things will improve you don’t have to change or put distance for the other person you can make a change which will bring you closer to that person because the toxic pattern is in the way. so let’s talk about them well you know what that’s I can actually there’s probably at least three categories here …

Stop Always Picking the Wrong Partner!

stop picking the wrong partner and why you may be doing it we’re live!  hi we’re back getting settled. Laura Dabney relationship psychotherapist and Joelle Brant Relationship coach. We are  here talking to you about the problems we see every day and that we want to share with you. As a result, maybe we can give you help across the airwaves as opposed to you coming in or picking up the phone.   we’d rather you pick up the phone and come in but some people are really afraid. So, if you come in maybe we can help you here.    we’ve noticed that a lot so we’re trying to ease your anxiety about coming in. Since we started, you know we’ve been talking about several things that have come to our attention or we’ve gotten requests from certain people to discuss some topics.    I was telling Joelle that I’ve had several requests now to talk about the topic why do I keep picking the wrong partner we laugh because that’s a very common concern issue yeah all the above yep that people call about or come in about all the time so we know that’s a ubiquitous problem and I don’t know if there’s really one answer right probably multi fold reasons or it could be one reason for someone another reason for another but it usually kind of comes down to a few tendencies I think or a combination of these tendencies that we’ve touched on before but maybe we talked about the combination how it’s like a lethal combination of tendencies so we talked about red flags right so there are people who have obvious obvious obvious problems with relationships or relating to people and there are people who miss those red flags yeah they don’t want to see them for one reason or another we usually talk about those red flags sort of I’ve written paper where they listed 50 of them so instead of doing that they tend to fall into these these categories one being self-care mm-hmm I’m not able to care for themselves and that could be can’t hold a job self-mutilate sore self harms those kind of things like always being late is one thing right that I’m late ya know that y’all mentioned right that often leads to well that sometimes leads to not be able to care for himself right now you have …

The REAL Definition of Intimacy

The REAL Definition of Intimacy and how to achieve it we’ll start it I it’s this Tuesday Oh seed now I’m not the only one that gets today’s wrong think about we have big news to talk about on Thursday so I think that’s where I hit that yes stay tuned for that yeah thank you for that so what are we gonna talk about today well Laura Dabney psychotherapist. Joelle Brant relationship  coach. we’ve been talking about how to get people over the hump of coming in to get help for their relationships yes we never get her right I’m a low talker I’ve been told most about my husband is one of the counties here usually that’s selective so what gets people over the hump of coming in or afraid to come in people are embarrassed ashamed and we’re on a mission but is that too strong on a mission to get the people who are suffering to come in sooner because we’ve noticed that when people but some people come in here or call us they’ve been suffering for too long. two years decades and we just think that’s completely unnecessary so we’re we chat about what we do and you’re invited into my office so hopefully that makes it a little easier for you yes and then you had some idea yeah the one thing that I thought would be something interesting to talk about is intimacy yeah we do deal with a lot of couples married couples people in long like long term relationships where I think a lot of times people don’t really understand what true intimacy is or they have a lot of you know they have their ideas of what it is but Dr. Dabney has taught me along the lines of what the the real and true definition of an intimacy could be yeah girl I miss a lot of misconceptions that gets them in trouble so our niche here is helping executive men with relationship problems and so this is how we’ve heard about all of the mists that are out there and then I’d help people overcome those myths to make get the relationship back on track yeah I guess that’s what it is and I think we started talking about the broader definition of intimacy people think it means sex typically but the broader definition is transparency yeah that’s …

Red and Pink Flags!

red and pink flags when it comes to people and their behaviors hey guys now it’s Thursday I know I saw I get my days except you but this is why because we’re introducing you to my Richmond office and for you know those of you that don’t know me I’m Tyler I’m the coach here in Richmond I’m still dr. dabney I just oh yeah we’ve been working really really hard on this office so we need her and it’s really really really excited because tomorrow is their grand opening so if you’re in the Richmond area and Glen allen just a little north of Richmond so if you’re in the area you stop by yes you tomorrow 4:00 to 6:00 we’re having catered heavy hors d’oeuvres yes cocktails and you can come and meet us and see our beautiful new office which was designed by the same designer who did 3rd in each office yes who is this rockstars wonderful goodness gracious our friends and in decorator it’s amazing mr. Nick Monique Rizzo yes we can’t leave out John John’s her husband who is the architect of that team and he does help her yes behind the scenes yes Missy oh my goodness I’m gonna do a quick tour yeah I make you nauseous maybe it’s a great idea you want to show you the whole office you’re all she’s gonna die you gotta come see it in person yes that’s why we need to come and see the cool sculpture on the wall there yeah great job so we’re in love with the space and we will be welcoming doctors here tomorrow night and other guests you start seeing patients here for the first time we’re really excited very excited and we’ll be doing you know the same things here as the Virginia Beach office offering coaching services there as well as therapy with dr. Dabney so it’s going to be a good time we’re very excited about this new office I’m just ecstatic it’s others my joelle version here in Richmond and I would have been telling people is that we are trying to break down those barriers that keep people from coming in the door yes and a party is a good way to do that but also we’ve been talking about different things that we have heard that have kept people coming in such …